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Did you know that your problems actually hold the key to what will truly make you happy?
So all those desires originated from something that didn’t feel so fab. And desire is what fuels our expansion.
Which means it’s actually a good thing when we run across something we don’t like. It means life is about to get even better!
That is, as long as we don’t stay stuck (i.e. focused) on the crappy problems. Since we get what we focus on, if I’m all panties-in-a-twist about what’s gone wrong, then guaranteed I’m creating more things going wrong.
But when I can appreciate the role this “contrast” has played, knowing that it’s leading to even better things (as long as I don’t overly dwell on the ‘problem’), then life can’t helpbut get better.
So that’s actually two reasons to make friends with what doesn’t seem very nice in life(losing a job, getting dumped, going broke, getting sick, etc.):
The first reason is that it’s what leads to things getting even better than they were before,
and the second reason is that if we don’t make some sort of peace with it, then we get stuck in it!
We NEED to know what we DON’T want in order for what we DO want to become more clear.
Being content is worse than having problems when it comes to your personal growth.
Take the time to asses and welcome your next problem and you might discover you knew how to find happiness within yourself all along.
What are some “problems” that you can look back on and be grateful that you had them?
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I was told that you cannot “drink” you sorrows away.
I heard it was a bad idea to look for comfort at the bottom of a bottle.
Turns out I was, in fact, looking for love in all the RIGHT places . . . . so to speak.
Where can I find such elixers you ask?
Whether you are looking for something to pick you up first thing in the morning or recharge your midday work batteries, Men’s Health UK has got you covered
8am: Early mood riser
“Low glucose slows brain function,” says nutritionist Angela Walker. Cranberries are packed with glucose and contain manganese to stabilise blood sugar. Blend a cranberry juice with yoghurt and pumpkin seeds.
Cost Ingredients approx £2.50
10am: Mid-morning energiser
Commuting might take the edge off your cheer. Move to the beet to revive it. “Nitrate in beetroot widens blood vessels, boosting oxygen uptake and giving you more energy,” says Walker.
Cost Beet It, £1.65 for 250ml
1pm: Lunchtime booster
“Poor food digestion allows toxins to reach your brain, affecting mood,” says Walker. The probiotics in supergreens counter these toxins. Mix them with tomato juice – which is rich in folic acid and aids mental wellbeing for a double boost.
Cost ProGreens, £22 for 15 sachets
3pm: Afternoon kickstart
The mid-afternoon energy slump can dampen your outlook. So quaff a sachet of Nature’s Plus Potent-C mixed with water. It contains B vitamins and the chemical CoQ10 – both of which bolster energy levels. Add an iron-rich snack like dried apricots to aid absorption.
Cost Potent-C, 65p per sachet
7pm: Mental massage
Post-gym dehydration can wreak havoc on your mental state, undoing the effects of your Potent-C pick up. “Coconut water hydrates you fast because its electrolyte balance is similar to body fluid, so is highly absorbable,” says Walker. Down a cup now for an evening of high spirits.
Cost Vita Coco, £4.18 fro 1 ltr
11pm: Happy night cap
“Blackcurrants are rich in zinc, which boosts dopamine levels and regulate your mood,” says Hill. They also contain sleep-inducing magnesium. Drink it hot: research has found warm drinks improve outlook by 11%.
Cost Cordial, £4.30 for 50cl
Do you just continue and tell yourself all is well?
Do you think you will eventually just bounce back on your own?
Or is something greater going on that should warrant a more in depth look inside of you?
Many people can go through mild depression without ever even knowing about it. But this is something I hope you will not take to lightly.
I hope you do not have any of these symptoms as described by HELP GUIDE. In a perfect world this would just be another short “down period” and you will be back to normal in no time.
But only you can make this very distinction!
Please take the time to really think about these symptoms and causes and consider seeking out another (possibly professional) opinion.
[quote style=”boxed”]If you identify with several of the following signs and symptoms, and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from clinical depression.
Depression varies from person to person, but there are some common signs and symptoms. It’s important to remember that these symptoms can be part of life’s normal lows. But the more symptoms you have, the stronger they are, and the longer they’ve lasted—the more likely it is that you’re dealing with depression. When these symptoms are overwhelming and disabling, that’s when it’s time to seek help.
If you feel like you fall into ANY of these categories or you have maybe even the slightest doubt – You NEED to watch this video to start your process of recovering from what could be depression.
Whatever it is you may be going through, please understand that you do not have to go through it alone.
If you think you have no one… YOU HAVE ME!
If at anytime you just want to talk you can contact me at anytime through the form below.
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[quote]Where there is no struggle, there is no strength” ~ Oprah Winfrey[/quote]
Much like going to the gym.
You understand that a certain amount of struggle is necessary if you want to see growth.
This can be applied to anything in your life.
If you want a better job you may have to struggle through more schooling.
If you want a baby you will DEFINITELY have to struggle through childbirth!
If you want to start your own business you will have many many struggles along to way that just go with doing something BOLD
If you want to climb MT. Everest….. well your just freakin nuts!
Anything you can get easily … may not be worth getting!
Wouldn’t it be nice if you never failed at ANYHING?
What if it seemed like you had “The Midas Touch” ALL THE TIME?
You ever known someone that seemed like everything they touched turned to gold?
Did you stop and ask yourself “How are they doing this?”
What it is that these people posses that seems to keep them on top while the rest of the world is on a constant down-slide?
There really are not that much different from you.
The only difference is they learned how to become the master at overcoming all failures.
Once you learn how to achieve this with a few simple steps, you will find that these so called “failures” seem to happen less and less.
You will start to discover that what you used to refer to as a major setback now becomes the stepping stone to your new found success.
You can start to easily turn your disappointments into life changing pivotal moments that you look back on and praise the moment they happened to you just like Jennifer Gresham.
[quote]So here’s everything I’ve learned, from my own experiences and others, about overcoming the emotional toll of defeat, and more importantly, how to keep on living well in spite of it.
Once the sting of a traumatic event begins to lessen, it’s a great time to take stock of your motivations. After our second loss, when I wasn’t sure if I could continue with the intensity and madness that comes with fertility treatment, we asked ourselves why we wanted another child.
Was it because we worried our daughter would be damaged in some way without a sibling? Were we trying to please our families? Or was it simply that we thought another child would fill our lives with more joy?
The answer is important but it wasn’t obvious. We spent a lot of time talking and imagining how our lives would change whether we had another child or didn’t.
How this applies to you: Sometimes our disappointment is driven by a fear of change that isn’t real. We wrap our self-worth around awards and promotions that aren’t meaningful (or if they are, it makes that self reflection even more valuable). Whether it’s therapy or just discussing things with a friend, get clear on why you wanted what you did. You might find that your disappointment is an opportunity to change course towards a more positive direction.
Once you know why you’re fighting for a dream, it’s a lot easier to keep going. I don’t care to admit how many times I confided to friends, ”this is our last try,” and then changed my mind after finding it impossible to put our daughter’s crib up on Craigslist.
Brooke Shields attempted in vitro fertilization seven times before she finally had her baby Rowan. John Grisham’s story A Time to Kill was rejected 28 times before it found a publisher.
How this applies to you: There’s no magic number of times you try something before it either works or you concede to quit with honor. There are no guarantees your persistence will pay. You just have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and believe, “I gave it everything I had.”
Most people won’t do this. They’ll blow it off as silly, but it’s really powerful. Laughter releases “feel good” chemicals such as serotonin into the body, relieving tension and providing a momentary escape from the emotions that plague you.
It’s also a heck of a lot more fun than crying.
When I am feeling really depressed by my inability to conceive, I watch these hilariously poignant videos called “Birds and Bees Can’t Always Make Babies.” (Warning: there are a ton of inside jokes in those videos. It’s not my fault if you don’t find them funny too, but hey, good for you. That means you’re not infertile.)
How this applies to you: I’m convinced you can find a funny video on almost any topic on You Tube. If that doesn’t work, nothing cures the job blues better than your favorite comedy, a bowl of ice cream, and a great big belly laugh. Just do it.
Infertility treatment can be all consuming. You can’t use exercise or travel as a distraction. You look like a junkie from all the blood draws, injections, and acupuncture sticks. And then you have to make up excuses as to why you have a doctor’s appointment every other day for weeks. For a whole year, many of my co-workers thought I was battling cancer.
After all that, I have to tell you, a negative result (or worse, a loss) was devastating. And each successive failure was worse than the last.
Some days, it is hard to get up in the morning and care about much of anything outside my uterus.
Then I remind myself that I won the lottery once. Who am I to complain I can’t win a second time?
How this applies to you: During times like these, gratitude only comes with practice. Focus on what’s going right in your life; make a list of all the “lucky breaks” you’re probably taking for granted. Then allow yourself to enjoy them. You don’t have to pay homage to what could have been by being miserable. Pay your respects by acknowledging that what you have is enough.
A dream has died.
One of the big myths about grief is that it’s something you just “get over.” In fact, though you never stop grieving, you do learn to live with it. The problem is, you can’t get there logically. You have to follow the soggy breadcrumbs of your emotions and hope they take you home.
Try just taking one step at a time. When you want to get over a failure see if you can pick just one step that may apply the most to you at the time and begin to take immediate action.
It IS this easy!
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Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
We all have great ideas and a vast array of knowledge on numerous subjects.
We are constantly absorbing information from the TV, Facebook, YouTube, our favorite books, magazines, friends and anything else we can take in.
We hear great ideas about how to be healthier, wealthier and happier every single day.
We even awknowledge how much we believe how beneficial it would be to our lives if we applied what we have just learned.
It is time to start taking action! Make it a habit to apply one thing new you learn every single day.
These little steps are all it takes to start making life changing improvements in your life.
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“So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key”
What is holding you back?
What does your heart truly yearn for that you have been believing you cannot have?
The world is filled with endless possibilities. REACH FOR THEM!
If you are not living out your wildest dreams ask yourself “WHY NOT?”
Are you any closer to your dreams today then you were at this time last year?
Are there any small baby steps you could start taking today to get the ball rolling?
Once you get started you may realize that it is, in fact… POSSIBLE!
“Man’s best successes come AFTER their disappointments.” ~Henry Ward Beecher
Cheer up! Knowing this is the easiest ways to become an instant optimist!
Edison failed over 3000 times trying to created the lightbulb.
Chicken Soup for the soul author, Jack Canfield was turned down by 144 publishers before he got his book deal. That is 144 people who read the book and thought “naaaah, this will never sell”, and pass the book off! 144!!!!
The point is….
Nothing great was every achieved the very first time it was attempted…. or the second…. or the 15th.
The good news is, this temporary disappointment…(and it IS temporary) will lead the way to your victory. It helped you identify something else you DON’T want, automatically drawing you one step closer to what you DO want!
Sometimes you want to get to one place and it seems everything keeps pushing you to another. You want to go south but all the wind is pushing you north.
How do you sail?
YOU TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR SHIP!
You do not have to rely on the “perfect weather” to get to your destination.
You can go anytime you please as soon as you take control.
You are in charge! Don’t wait…….. Grab those oars!
Who says “the perfect diet” does not exist?
How about a diet that says sleep more and you will lose more weight?
Ummmm, I think I can stick to this one!
A study over at Annals of Internal Medicine went out to prove this fact in a not-so-recent study that was conducted… thus making me strictest dieter in my household!
[box] Sleep curtailment decreased the proportion of weight lost as fat by 55% (1.4 vs. 0.6 kg with 8.5 vs. 5.5 hours of sleep opportunity, respectively; P = 0.043) and increased the loss of fat-free body mass by 60% (1.5 vs. 2.4 kg; P = 0.002). This was accompanied by markers of enhanced neuroendocrine adaptation to caloric restriction, increased hunger, and a shift in relative substrate utilization toward oxidation of less fat.[/box]
What does this all mean? It seems as though the more sleep you get has a direct effect on your metabolism as well as you appetite!
This is something I, at first found hard to believe. Wouldn’t you think that the longer you sleep the hungrier you would be once you arose from your slumber?
But if that is not the case, then waking a hibernating bear is nowhere NEAR as dangerous as I though it would be! He should not want to eat for hours.
It really starts to make more sense when you think about it.
[box]There’s not a diet pill on the planet that could accomplish what sleep did in this study, which compared two groups of overweight non-smokers on calorie restricted diets for 14 days. One group clocked 8.5 hours of sleep per night, and the other logged 5.5 hours of sleep per night (which the authors point out is a “norm” for people in this day and age.) Both groups ate roughly 1,450 calories a day. After two weeks, the people who slept more lost more fat than the group who slept less. More than half of the weight loss during the 8.5 hours of sleep was fat versus only one quarter of the weight loss during the 5.5 hours of sleep. People literally burned fat while they slept.
Even more startling, the folks who slept less lost more muscle (60% more muscle was lost by the sleep-deprived group.) Those three hours of lost sleep caused a shift in metabolism that made the body want to preserve fat at the expense of muscle. And that’s not all that happened: When the researchers compared circulating blood levels of appetite-regulating hormones in the two groups they found those who slept for three fewer hours had produced more of the appetite stimulating hormone ghrelin. They woke up hungrier!
Most of us assume our bodies burn more calories when we are awake longer, but that’s not true. The metabolic rate is down-regulated with less sleep. Translation: When you sleep less, your body starts to burn calories at a slower rate to preserve energy. In the study, people burned on average 400 more calories by sleeping for 3 more hours–that’s an additional 2,800 calories burned in just one week. With less sleep, the body seeks to meet the increased metabolic needs of longer waking hours by shifting into a lower gear, so to speak, that burns fewer calories and less fat.
Bottom Line: If you want to burn fat, preserve muscle and wake up lesshungry when you are dieting, sleep more…8.5 hours a night to be exact.
So next time you want to “kickstart” you new diet…. go to bed!
And when you start to get complaints that “all you do is sleep” you can smile and say “Its part of my new fitness regime”
“Storms make Oaks take roots” ~ Proverb
Don’t despise the storms. On the surface it may appear that you have a few limbs broken. Maybe a few of your leaves have blown off and you barely recognize yourself anymore.
But what you do not see is the transformation that is happening just out of sight.
While all the “apparent” turmoil was taking place above, your roots were below were hard at work – adjusting, strengthening, learning and growing!
Next time a bigger storm comes around… you will be prepared.
It’s going to take a lot more than that to bust your limbs now!
Thank goodness that first one came. Taught you everything you needed to know. You have now built your inner strength to handle anything.
I LOVE STORMS!
Did you know that workers in other countries work less than the average amarican?
Our average workweek as well as the hours per day have been steadily increasing over the past 10 years!
Most European employees enjoy 6 full weeks of paid vacation a year! As you may well know, the industry standard for America is 2!
It’s purpose was to bring awareness that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! We are overworked, underpaid and quite frankly . . . starting to lose our sanity!
What is happening to “The American Dream”? How are we to enjoy all the beauties of life if we spend 80% of our weeks working?
Being overworked adds an undeniable amount of stress to your life that far outweights the extra couple bucks you make.
What about being home during those crucial years as your children grow?
How many of you have children who took thier first steps while you were on the job? How many of you got the call that your baby spoke its first words only to rush home and hear your pride and joy utter the babysitter’s name?
It is time you reevaluate how you are spending the majority of your days and “Take Back Your Time”
as Graaf would suggest.
Maybe in the process you will find that you also get your LIFE back!
“Believe with all of your heart that you will do what you were made to do” ~ Orison Swett Marden
If you don’t have belief you do not have anything!
If you are entering into any competition but on your way they you have thoughts that there is no way you could ever win… You might as well stay home.
We live into what we believe. Our body always finds a way to prove that our mind is right.
If you believe you are unlucky, you will always find yourself finding evidence that backs your claim. You end up saying “I told you, bad things always happen to me, that is why I am unhappy”
The reality is – IT IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE
Because you are unhappy first and believe that bad things will happen… they do.
Try believing in the best possible outcome just for a day.
Look for different reasons to prove that what you want is actually getting closer to you and that good things are making their way to you
Just for a day…………
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Hope this touches you the way it touched me!
A young man shopping in a supermarket noticed a little old lady following him around. If he stopped, she stopped. Furthermore she kept staring at him.
She finally overtook him at the checkout, and she turned to him and said, “I hope I haven’t made you feel ill at ease; it’s just that you look so much like my late son.”
He answered, “That’s okay.”
“I know it’s silly, but if you’d call out ‘Good bye, Mom’ as I leave the store, it would make me feel so happy.”
She then went through the checkout, and as she was on her way out of the store, the man called out, “Goodbye, Mom.”
The little old lady waved and smiled back at him..
Pleased that he had brought a little sunshine into someone’s day, he went to pay for his groceries.
“That comes to $121.85,” said the clerk..
“How come so much? I only bought 5 items.”
The clerk replied, “Yeah, but your Mother said you’d be paying for her things, too.”
Moral of the story…..
Don’t trust Little Old Ladies!!!
BLESSED ARE THE CRACKED, FOR THEY ARE THE ONES WHO LET IN THE “LIGHT”!
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” ~ Samuel Smiles
Hope is believe in a better day. The minute you start to have hope you begin to distance yourself from that which has been stealing your joy.
It only takes a little bit to make a huge impact on your life.
Begin each day with a little hope.. and belief that things are getting better… and you will find that they will.
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We ALL have habits!
Some good…. Most of them … bad
We have been saying we are going to change them for years… yet nothing ever happens.
We say we are going to start exercising regularly on the first.
We say we will quit smoking
We say we will quit drinking…(Although I dont see why! Who doesn’t enjoy a nice glass of Cabernet?)
We say we will lose weight
We always have great intentions. We know that the results of changing these habits will bring us
a better future.
But somehow we just cant seem to “make it stick”
In Duhigg’s Book, he breaks down exactly why this keeps happening.
In it you will identify your “habit loop” and everything will start to make sense.
The concepts are easy to apply to any aspect of your life you would like to change.
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DISCOVER – DECIDE – DETERMINE – DE-CLUTTER – DELIVERANCE
Sounds simple, but if you follow these 5 simple steps you will assure yourself that you will have new found sense of purpose when you KNOW you are on the path to your true destiny.
Marsha Anderson has put together a beautifully crafted road map for anyone looking to stop just existing and start LIVING. In her post “How To Pursue Your Destiny” Anderson states how important in can be to ensuring a passion filled future to remove all of the clutter from your life.
You will be amazed at how once you clear out all the things that don’t matter your goals seem to just crystallize and manifest almost immediately.
Spend some at least a few days on each step before moving to the next to really make sure you have covered it from every possible angle.
What do you believe is your true destiny? What has been stopping you from living it?
[quote style=”boxed”] “You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” Ralph Marston [/quote]
If there was a way to instantly become a positive thinker, would you give it a try?
Why is everyone afraid to be optimistic? Where is the harm in expecting the best?
[quote style=”boxed”]“For myself I am an optimist – it does not seem to be much use being anything else” Winston Churchill[/quote]
Yet our parents teach us to expect the worse so that we are never let down.
But here is the kicker:
If your expecting the worse – YOU ARE ALREADY DOWN!
So how do you do it?
How can you see the bright side of so sooo many dark days?
Find what inspires and motivates you!
[quote style=”boxed”]Inspiration is one of the best motivators, and it can be found everywhere. Every day, seek inspiration, and it will help sustain motivation over the long term. Here are some of my sources of inspiration:
Use these, or find your own sources of inspiration, and make it a daily habit to be inspired. Then set off towards your dreams, energized! Via Leo Babauta at Zenhabits.com[/quote]
The point is – FEEL GOOD.
Alwyas look for things that make you feel good and by assoication you will be thinking positive.
Another powerful method to increase how positive your thoughts are is to ask yourself thought inspiring questions.
[quote style=”boxed”]So try this experiment in optimism for a week. At bedtime, write down three positive things that happened to you. Choose specific sensations, images, and interactions that were particular to that day — even if they were as common place as, My dog greeted me at the door! Then, be sure to let me know if you start feeling better about your “lousy” days. Quoted from Dan Lippmann [/quote]
When you lead your mind to the feeling you want it has no choice but to give it to you. Without fail. EVERYTIME. Try it.
When you ask questions like ” why does this always happen to me” you mind has to hanswer, so it searches through all of your beliefs to find a answer to justify it for you.
Ask better questions and you will have better thoughts.
The most FOOLPROOF way to guarantee a positive experience for you is to release a little serotonin
Serotonin has been called the happiness hormone because when released it can regulate your mood and is associated with that “happy for no reason” feeling.
Your job is to find new ways everyday to have a little bit extra released.
One of the best ways is to give love. Start by doing something nice for a loved one or even a stranger.
Have you ever given a kid a birthday gift and watched their faces light up like The 4th of July? Did you ever noticed that as you watched the happiness that you just enriched their lives with that somehow, YOU feel more excited than the kid receiving the gift?
Then you experienced an “EXTRA” serotonin release!
[quote style=”boxed”]Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person. I decided to make a tray of food and donate it to the Salvation Army. It took my mind off of things and I felt better for helping someone else. via Tiny Buddha[/quote]
And if all else fails…
WATCH SOMETHING FUNNY!
You can’t laugh and be thinking negative. It’s just impossible!
[quote style=”boxed”]“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” Herm Albright[/quote]
How do you cheer yourself up on a “rainy day”?
Share your favorite positivity booster in the comments below.
Have you been trying to “manifest” since The Secret came out and yet you still drive the same crappy car, live in the same crappy neighborhood, same crappy husband at the same crappy job?
Becoming frustrated and starting to believe that it is all just a hoax? You are not alone!
This short video exposes the lies The Secret wants you to believe. What you have been taught could actually be the thing that is keeping you from the dreams you desire.