It’s been a while. If this blog feels a little different, that’s because it is. And I owe you an explanation. The truth is, I abandoned this blog. I abandoned blogging in general. I even abandoned the audience I’d built over the last decade. Somewhere along the lines, I lost my way. I forgot why … Read more
The Tyranny of the Silver Lining “At least you still have…” Stop. Just stop. The second someone starts a sentence with “at least,” they aren’t comforting you. They are performing an emergency evacuation of their own discomfort. They can’t handle the raw, jagged edge of your pain, so they try to sand it down with … Read more
The Violence of “Almost Healed” “You’re so close. I can tell you’re almost there.” Ever heard that? Maybe it was a therapist with a soft voice and a beige office. Maybe it was a partner who loves you but is exhausted by your “process.” Maybe it was a parent who just wants the “old you” … Read more
I don’t know about you, but I spent way too much of my 20s thinking everyone else had it figured out because their photos looked like a jewelry commercial. We see the beach trip, the new car, the ‘crushing it’ LinkedIn update, and we forget that they probably had a panic attack in the bathroom … Read more
Stop Lying to Me. I once saw a “Good Vibes Only” sticker slapped onto the bumper of a car parked outside a hospice. I wanted to rip it off with my teeth. Look, we’ve all been there. You’re standing in the wreckage of your life—maybe it’s a divorce, a bankruptcy, or a death that makes … Read more
You’ve been told that quitting is for losers. That ‘pushing through’ is where the magic happens. Lies. All of it. I spent years in the grind. The kind of grind where you wake up at 4 AM, drink coffee that tastes like burnt rubber and disappointment, and spend ten hours a day trying to ‘optimize’ … Read more