I used to hate that phrase. ‘Just get over it.’ You know the one. Usually comes from someone who loves you, but they’re just… uncomfortable. They want you to be ‘back to normal’ because your sadness is a mirror they don’t want to look into. It’s not actually about your healing; it’s about their comfort. … Read more
I’ve been noticing this thing lately. This obsession with the “healing journey.” It’s everywhere. The podcasts, the Instagram carousels, the “5 steps to finally move past your trauma” guides. And on the surface, it looks like progress. But if you look closer, it starts to look a lot like something else: another optimization project. We’ve … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of time feeling like I was failing at the one thing I was actually trying to do: get better. You know that feeling? Where you have a great month, you feel like you’ve finally ‘arrived,’ and then one bad Tuesday happens and you feel like you’re back at square one. I … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of time in the ‘healing’ world. You know the drill: the journals, the podcasts, the carefully curated ‘wellness’ routines. For a while, I actually liked it. I liked the feeling of *progress*. The idea that if I just read one more book or tried one more modality, I’d finally reach that … Read more
Ever feel like you’re failing at your own recovery? Like there’s some invisible timer ticking down, and you’re just… not there yet? I’ve spent a lot of time in that headspace. The one where you’re checking your progress against some imaginary standard of ‘healed.’ You know, the kind of progress that looks like a straight … Read more