P. James Holland 
I spent years treating my life like a project that just needed a better manager. I had the “never give up” mantras taped to my mirror. I thought that if I just pushed a little harder, fought a little longer, and refused to quit, I’d eventually reach some kind of “finished” state. Then I stumbled … Read more
I used to hate that phrase. ‘Just get over it.’ You know the one. Usually comes from someone who loves you, but they’re just… uncomfortable. They want you to be ‘back to normal’ because your sadness is a mirror they don’t want to look into. It’s not actually about your healing; it’s about their comfort. … Read more
I’ve been noticing this thing lately. This obsession with the “healing journey.” It’s everywhere. The podcasts, the Instagram carousels, the “5 steps to finally move past your trauma” guides. And on the surface, it looks like progress. But if you look closer, it starts to look a lot like something else: another optimization project. We’ve … Read more
I spent years chasing “closure.” You know the feeling—that itch in your brain that won’t go away until you get that one final conversation, that apology, or that one piece of the puzzle that finally makes the whole mess make sense. I thought if I could just get the other person to admit they were … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of time feeling like I was failing at the one thing I was actually trying to do: get better. You know that feeling? Where you have a great month, you feel like you’ve finally ‘arrived,’ and then one bad Tuesday happens and you feel like you’re back at square one. I … Read more