I’ve spent a lot of time in the “healing” world. You know the vibe—the journals, the podcasts, the endless deep-dives into why you are the way you are. For a long time, I thought I was doing the work. But eventually, I realized I hadn’t actually healed; I’d just become a professional at being a … Read more
I spent years treating my life like a project that just needed a better manager. I had the “never give up” mantras taped to my mirror. I thought that if I just pushed a little harder, fought a little longer, and refused to quit, I’d eventually reach some kind of “finished” state. Then I stumbled … Read more
I used to hate that phrase. ‘Just get over it.’ You know the one. Usually comes from someone who loves you, but they’re just… uncomfortable. They want you to be ‘back to normal’ because your sadness is a mirror they don’t want to look into. It’s not actually about your healing; it’s about their comfort. … Read more
I’ve been noticing this thing lately. This obsession with the “healing journey.” It’s everywhere. The podcasts, the Instagram carousels, the “5 steps to finally move past your trauma” guides. And on the surface, it looks like progress. But if you look closer, it starts to look a lot like something else: another optimization project. We’ve … Read more
I spent years chasing “closure.” You know the feeling—that itch in your brain that won’t go away until you get that one final conversation, that apology, or that one piece of the puzzle that finally makes the whole mess make sense. I thought if I could just get the other person to admit they were … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of time feeling like I was failing at the one thing I was actually trying to do: get better. You know that feeling? Where you have a great month, you feel like you’ve finally ‘arrived,’ and then one bad Tuesday happens and you feel like you’re back at square one. I … Read more
I’ve spent the last few years ‘healing.’ I mean, really healing. Journaling, therapy, podcasts, the whole nine yards. But a while ago, I realized something scary: I was spending more time analyzing my pain than actually living my life. I had become a professional patient. It’s a quiet slide. You start by wanting to understand … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of time in the ‘healing’ world. You know the drill: the journals, the podcasts, the carefully curated ‘wellness’ routines. For a while, I actually liked it. I liked the feeling of *progress*. The idea that if I just read one more book or tried one more modality, I’d finally reach that … Read more
Ever feel like you’re failing at your own recovery? Like there’s some invisible timer ticking down, and you’re just… not there yet? I’ve spent a lot of time in that headspace. The one where you’re checking your progress against some imaginary standard of ‘healed.’ You know, the kind of progress that looks like a straight … Read more
I’ve spent a lot of my life feeling like I was failing a test I didn’t have the study guide for. You know that feeling? Like everyone else got a memo on how to ‘adult’ or ‘be successful’ or ‘have a plan,’ and it just got lost in the mail for me. For a long … Read more