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Free Workshop Goal Setting 2013

Everyone is always asking me how I was able to quit my full time career after
10 years WITHOUT a plan, savings or any freakin clue of what I REALLY wanted
out of life and yet somehow found more fulfillment and adventure than I ever thought
possible when I had the 6 figure corporate job.
Well tomorrow afternoon I am going to get personal and spill the beans!  I am inviting you and a small group of people to a complimentary workshop where I will teach you how you can do the same.  YES, I usually charge $297 for this type of thing (but I am testing the content.) WANT IN?
All you have to do is call (949) 202-4265 at 3pm eastern time, enter the pin 47198# and you will
hear me tell all my secrets. You probably have not “experienced” me Live (reserved for a select few in the past) but I can tell you I like to have a good time while I learn and share.
So you should
click the link below and register so you can watch live from your computer and ask questions as we walk through the process.
You wont believe the step-by-step detail I have put into this! It’s TOO MUCH but I want you to be able to go out and start getting results by the weekend!  Here’s the link:
During this free workshop I will personally teach you:
— The reason why you feel like there are not enough hours in the day, and what to do about it.
— What factors you MUST consider before you quit your job
— One simple trick to find out if you are living your true calling and purpose in 30 seconds
— How to spend 95% of this year doing only the things you absolutely LOVE!
Oh yeah… and I will also teach you how I was able to attract my dream girl and how you can too! (Guys and girls!  Also works for straight couples =-))
Again, all you have to do is follow these instructions and you will learn all this for free:
  1. Register here
  2. Log in and follow along at 3pm eastern time tomorrow January 17th  OR
  3. Call in from any phone and listen in here (949) 202-4265 and enter the pin 47198#

That’s it! Talk to you soon 

ps. PLEASE arrive early to the workshop. I usually do not offer training like this often so it will fill up fast. If you get locked out and send your goons after me, I will disavow all knowledge of said event and hire a stunt double to take my place so it wont do you any good anyway!
pss. I watch too many movies!
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Why Was Tony Robbins Fired?

Tony Robbins Fired
Your Services Will No Longer Be Needed Mr. Robbins.

Controversy and turmoil all through the holidays
over this Tony Robbins issue. . .
 
As with any big transition like moving to New York
everything has not gone as smoothly.
 
Mainly, not having internet and a working space to write
has been driving me bananas! Then my laptop decided
it wanted to go on a holiday as well!
 
So, to keep my sanity I read and listen to self-help audios – as
you may already know with the Anthony Robbins Personal Power 
30 day Challenge I was doing.
 

But there was a problem…

 
I remember LOVING Tony Robbins back in the day! I am pretty sure
he is one of the very first personal development teachers I ever
listen to before I even knew what personal development was.
 
BUT…
 
I found I just could not get all the way through his program 
this time!
 
I have grown so much since the last time I have listened to this.
My ideas and beliefs have shifted so much that most of what
he says just isn’t sitting right with me these days.
 
Have you ever WANTED to like something just because you used to?
 
Awhile back the movie Child’s Play came on.  The one with the
crazy Chuckie doll that comes to life and goes on a killing spree.
Well, I got pretty excited because they were a HUGE hit when
the movies first came out.
 
But after about 15 minutes of watching I was thinking “Boy, this 
is lame!” and I turned it off!
 
That is how I felt listening to Personal Power again. lol
 
Not that it was lame… just doesn’t seem right.  You know
what I mean?  When something just doesn’t feel  . . . right.
 
For example, one way he uses to get yourself motivated to
take action on a goal is to associate MASSIVE pain to
NOT taking action. So he has you vividly picturing
the absolute worst things happening to you if you do
not accomplish your goal.
 

Now this may not seem so bad and I know for a fact that 

it is effective….

 
But with everything I have learned about the power of your
mind and how you can really create your own reality through
conscious thought…. just seems like a misuse of power!
 
I do NOT want to give any power to my fears, no matter how 
brief…
 
AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU!
 
So I had to fire Tony and pick something else.
 

This is where YOU come in…

 
I have 3 different programs/trainings I want to dive into
and share with you what I learn – just as I was doing with
Personal Power.
 
But I want you to vote on which one sounds like it is
what you need most right now and I will tear into it,
breaking down the material and all the steps I learn
and presenting my findings to you.
 
Deal?
 
First one up is:
 

Earl Nightingale’s Lead the Field

Nightingale is “unofficially” the inspiration behind the
movie The Secret with his audio recording “The Strangest
Secret” back in 1956. Now has sold millions and millions
of copies.  Lead the field was the program they created
to expand the ideas of that.
 
Number 2:
 

Brendon Burchard’s – High Performance Academy

Author of the new best seller “The Charge” and
“Millionaire Messenger” puts together an extensive
training with videos from the live event.  This one
deals with everything about the brain and
psychology.  Really dives into the core behind
what really makes us tick and what it takes to become
successful. (hint: It’s NOT hard work and dedication.
there is a more powerful shortcut).  At the link
he gives away a great free video series. (This is probably
the most current program of the 3)
 
Number 3
 

Mind Secrets Exposed 2.0

 
This one I just discovered by accident.  I was searching
Google for things like “the power of the mind” and
things like that when I found this one.  It is about
a 200 page book that also has the audio recordings. I
was pleasantly surprised with this one. I went in not
knowing what to expect and I really enjoyed it.
This one is a bit religious and uses the word God throughout.
So if that is something that offends you or is against your
beliefs, please do not vote for this one… or just substitute
Universe, Buddha, Allah, Holy Spirit, Divine Power, Supreme
being or whatever else you may refer to as a being that may be
of higher consciousness than yourself.
 
All 3 are really amazing and totally align with my current
beliefs of positive reinforcement and I will make lasting
changes in your life.
 
Leave me a reply in the comments that says either 1,2 or 3.
 
In a day or two I will let you know the results and
begin with the first lesson.  =-)
So lets get Rockin’!

UPDATE & RESULTS

 
Here are the early results from the votes on which program we will be
going through together of the next few weeks.
 
 
1. Earl Nightingale’s Lead the Field    29%
 
2.  Brendon Burchard’s – High Performance Academy  62%
 
3.  Mind Secrets Exposed 2.0     9%
 
I have to say that I am not surprised by the results.  Brendon
is probably the most widely know and popular.  His material is
new age and current.  If you have read The Charge then you know
what I mean.
 
I feel like his stuff makes me feel like my head is going to pop of….
in a good way!
 
As with Earl, although he was a pioneer to so many great things
like the whole audio books on tape industry (many do not know that
his company, Nightingale-Conant, are the ones who first published 
Anthony Robbins programs on all those audio tapes those many 
years ago) not many people really know who he is.  I mean, I was
only introduced to the man behind all this greatness just last year.
 

Then there is number 3….. the underdog.

 
Virtually a no-name, so to speak, comes out with this program
teaching similar techniques with some amazing twists and
exciting new insights, and no one wants it.
 
Why?
 
Well, mostly, people can relate with people they know.  If this same
program was endorsed by Anthony Robbins or Wayne Dyer we 
would be more likely to give it a second look.
 
Secondly, the homepage is extremely “salesy”.  That turns me 
off almost instantly.  I hate being “pitched”.
 
Have you ever been in a 3 hour timeshare presentation and all
you can think about is the free food and vacation they promised you?
You had no intention of spending any money so everything that is
shoved at you just becomes annoying.
 
That’s what I feel about the Mind Secrets Exposed sales page.
 
However, I learned about this program from an email I received from
Steve G. Jones.  He is a leading hypnotherapist and Master NLP
Practitioner.  Had he not recommended this program I would have
never made it past the first 2 minutes of the video.  
 
But I am glad he did.  I actually really enjoyed this book and 
the audio is on my ipod and we sometimes listen to it in the car.
Always a bonus when you get the audios.
 
I did forget to add one important option…
 
If you thought neither of these programs interested you, the voting is 
open for write-ins.
 
Is there a program or book out there you have been interested in but
just not sure if its any good?
 
Or is there one that you have gone through that has had a massive
impact on your life that you swear by?
 
Old or new, send it my way and I will add it to the list.  
 
If it gets enough votes maybe it can bump Brendon’s High Performance
Academy down and we start the year with it instead.
 
You can voice you opinions in the comments. The only way I will know what you
want is if you tell me.  Here is your chance. 
 
Excited to get started. I know you will enjoy it no matter which one we start with.

Mental toughness and fitness: How are they related to each other?

Mental Touchness and fitness
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Mental toughness helps you in growing the possibility that you would always achieve your goals which have been set up in terms of fitness. Self-confidence, mental clearness, the power to remain calm under pressure situations and keep a control on disturbing thoughts are some of the qualities behind the success of an athlete.

Once you implement these characteristics of mental toughness, it typically ends up in increased fitness outcomes.

Self-confidence:

Self-confidence or should we call it faith within yourself is one of the most important factor. The higher your level of confidence as you approaches a task, the higher is the chance that you simply can come through success.

If you are climbing steep hill or mountain with full confidence with a frame of mind that you simply can reach the highest peak, your confidence generates a powerful act in yourself. You may go through hard times like tiredness as you start walking towards your goal; however approaching the task confidently makes it less doubtless that you simply can surrender.

Mental toughness keeps you energetic with a quest of achieving your fitness goals.

Having a clear frame of mind:

Another part of mental toughness is clarity. Once you clearly determine your fitness goals and plan out the steps you would like to involve attaining those goals, than the final outcome is always positive. If you have no proper planning, then there are high chances that you might not attain your required goal.

However, if you take off with mental clarity, knowing that you just wish to be ready to run 5 miles on a daily basis, as an example, which you will offer yourself six months to succeed in your goal, there are more additional possibilities that it might come across the ups and downs concerned in accomplishing a determined fitness goal.

Remain cool under pressure:

Staying calm under pressure is not an easy task. You might have apparently seen good athletes who have performed well despite immense pressure on them. They reach their goals by not permitting the pressure to induce to them.

Likewise, once you started to realize your fitness goal, you would possibly have your own pressures ready to traumatize your mind.

For instance, you are in aerobic exercise category. You look around and see others look fit and you are simply starting out. Perhaps the pressure might be self-inflicted; you would possibly be annoyed with yourself for not being as versatile as you used to be. Regardless of the case, the key’s to remain calm under this sort of pressure and not facilitate the strain to induce to you. You will reach your goals through thoroughness and determination.

keep cool and calm mentallyHave a control on your thoughts

Mental toughness comprises of controlling over your thoughts. During a scenario where your fitness level isn’t wherever you wish it to be and your negative thoughts have gotten the simplest of you, you have got a choice of either letting the negative thoughts take over and drain your energy or you will consciously opt for positive thoughts that empower you and push you to prolong.

For instance, if you’re lifting weights and notice that you just cannot do as several repetitions as you’d like, your mind would possibly begin to think on how out of form you are and this way you will never reach your fitness goals.

Mental toughness during these scenarios means that consciously perceiving the items that you just are able to do it more successfully and appreciate your efforts in the form of positive thoughts.

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Farnoosh Brock on Finding Your Passion – Exclusive Interview

farnoosh brock Prolific LivingI recently have had the privilege to speak with Farnoosh Brock from Prolific Living about something that I am very passionate about frankly… well…. because I have lived it!
There are lots of self-help “Guru’s” out there who tell you try this  or that and give all kinds of theories which they think will help you without ever having tried and tested the methods for themselves.
I AM SICK OF IT!
You don’t learn that way!
You learn from real life experienced from REAL people who are not just giving you “ideas” and philosophies that sound pretty, but from the school of hard knocks!
Meaning… you learn because you do not have to guess whether or not what you hear will actually work!  You know it works because it is something that actually happened.
That is why I started this project.
I want you to be able to hear real life stories directly from the experience of a true leader!
That is what I got from Farnoosh!
So I approached her with the question…..

If you had lost everything – house, money, family, job (which I know so many people are going through right now), what are the steps you would take to rebuild and comeback more abundant if you only had 30 days to do it?

Did she answer the question???
BOY DID SHE EVER!
Something you may know have know about Farnoosh is that she had a 6 figure corporate job with all the trimmings ……………. and left it all behind!
You are probably thinking she is crazy.  That sounds like the dream.  You work for years and years to climb the corporate ladder so you can retire fat and wealthy in 30 years and live the American dream.
Right?
Does it really happen like that?
How many retired people do you know that are fat and wealthy and living the dream?
Ok, maybe just wealthy and living the dream?
What I want you to learn from this amazing interview is that it IS possible to be at your absolute worst place right now and turn it into your greatest defining moment of your life!
Listen in as Farnoosh teaches you how!
 
 
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I want to show you exactly why + how I resigned from my 6-figure work-from-home career at a Fortune 100 at thetop of my game to start my own company and build a profitablebrand in less than 2 years (without a fancy MBA or a clue about “entrepreneurship”). I was just a clueless cubicle junkie with a dream of an escape!
I tell you exactly what to do if you are in a miserable job and feel trapped and want to MOVE in the right direction.
~ Farnoosh Brock – Smart Exit Blueprint
 

To find out how you can stop existing and start living, head over to the Smart Exit blueprint right now and AT LEAST watch the 5 free videos she has before she takes them down IMMEDIATELY!
 
So what did you think?
Do you think it is possible?
Do you still have the fear of changing to something new?
What are some of the things in your life right now where you could use a bit more HOPE?
Tell me in the comments below.
If this interview will help inspire someone please like and share.  You never know who’s life you just may save!

Anthony Robbins Personal Power II 30 Day Challenge – Day 1

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Welcome to the 30 day challenge. I have dusted off the old Anthony Robbins Personal Power II tapes and I want you to follow along and go through it together with us.
 
I will be listening to the audios and taking notes and reviewing it as I go along. I will be offering my insights as well as how I will be applying it to my own life and how you can too.
 
So this will not read like a normal blog post. It will be more of me dissecting the most important pieces of the Anthony Robbins Personal Power 2 program and noting it down. It will be in the exact order I am hearing it in. Just as if you are listening with me.
 
The original course is still being sold today here——
 
Here is the course outline from the website and what you can expect to learn
anthony robbins personal power II review
 
So if you are with me and ready to take on the 30 day challenge to success, lets get started….
 
 
The science of success conditioning.
 
 
First thing you are going to need is your success journal.

Anthony Robbins Personal Power II Success Journal

“I’m a firm believer in the adage that if your life’s worth living, it’s worth
recording so in addition to the written exercises, be sure to take some extra
moments each day to jot down a few notes about the events in your life, how
you’re feeling, what you’re pleased and excited about, and to acknowledge the
positive changes you’re making. Personally, I’ve kept journals for nearly two
decades, and I know you’ll find real value in putting your thoughts, ideas, and
emotions on paper: There’s a certain level of clarity that comes from journal
writing that’s difficult to reach any other way. This is such a simple yet
rewarding process! The value of it “creeps up” on you. It’s like watching
children as they grow up: Sometimes it’s difficult to see how much they’re
growing if we’re their parents, but when you”

 
I added a journaling app on my Tablet so I can have it anywhere. I like to travel light. Although I do believe there is power in actual writing. That means pencil to paper. For this project we will use the Tablet. But mostly, this will be my journal. I am not going to hold anything back. I will be posting everything I am working on right here.
 
My struggles. The obstacles and challenges I have to face. Everything will be right here. So at times I may need your support. And I will be here to offer it to you as well.
 
 
 
 
 
First important thing I catch is that Anthony Robbins asks us to make a promise to have desire and commitment. Say to yourself that you are totally commited to your success and that you will get yourself to follow through until you have achieved your goals.
 
 
Failure and success are not overnight things. Both take the same amount of time and effort. If you failed at something that means you had to repeatedly do something wrong. Or do nothing at all. Like in any failed relationship. It was not perfect the entire time then one morning it just failed.
 
You had to really work at it for it to fail.
 
The same is true for success. Put it consistent effort and know that it is impossible for you to fail with enough action.
 
Make small improvements daily. If you improved just 1% a day you will be amazed at the transformation over time.
 
What ever you try to improve daily cant help but get better.
 
Whatever you give the majority of your attention to will ultimately grow. The problem is that most poeple give all of their attention to the negative things, thus causing them to grow.
 
Instead, become interested in success. Make that all you notice. All you can talk about. All you dream about.
 
One athlete says people look at him and say “Well arn’t you so lucky being born with all that talent” and he says that people never see the years and years of practice and dedication it took to become so great. Athletes become professionals because they make a choice to become one. They demand more from themselves than what anyone else could ever expect.
The are up before everyone else training. They stay up after everyone else has gone to bed. They study their competition. They watch footage of the greats.
You can never point to one single action that all-of-the-sudden made them great. Nope. It is the total of all the little action they took consistently over the years that built into each other to make them unstoppable.
 
That is what we are going to do.
 
Spend 30 days focusing on success on all areas of your life and take daily action to improve it.
 
Study everything you want. If you want happiness study happiness. If you want wealth study wealth. You will learn through repetition.
 
Have you ever memorized a song without trying? Repeating something over and over will make it like second nature to you. Practice success.
 
 
Only thing that matters is this moment. The past has only prepared you for right now. This is all that you have.
“The past does not equal the future”
 
What are you going to do right now? That is the only question you need to ask yourself.
 

Todays message: You have the ability to act. To begin to go to a new level. We are going to learn how to reprogram the mind.

 
Anthony Robbins says there is a 4 step ultimate success formula that he has followed for years to create success in every area of his life over and over again. No matter if it is finances, relationships or health. This is the system to follow:
 

4 step ultimate success formula:

 
1. Know your outcome – What do you want? Get clear. Make a habit of training you brain to get to a specific result. Before you begin anything you should already know what results you are expecting. If you are on you way to the gym and you go without any expected result, you may just go in there and wander around. If you say you are going to lose 5lbs now it gives you a clear goal the what actions to take to get it. If you say you are going to bulk up and gain 10lbs you would have an entirely different set of actions. But it would be clear.
 
2. Take action – Start moving in the general direction of your goals. A wrong step is better than no steps. Decide to take action. Demand it from yourself. Not what we can do,but what we WILL do is the only determining factor to your success. Expect it to take some time. Start with small goals and build up on the momentum
 
3. Notice whats working and what isn’t. Welcome failure. Learn from it. The most successful people fail the most. Pay attention. Do not accept failure as a failure. Use it to guide you into what to try next. Always be taking a mental inventory of the results you are getting and correcting course along the way.
 
4. Change approach. Keep growing and getting better. Keep changing until you succeed. Think about riding a bike. You didn’t get on once, fall down and say I am never trying that again. You kept trying. One time you may only get 5 feet. The next time, 20. Then the next 50. Adults fail once or twice and give up. Don’t let that be you.
 
 
Find a role model. Someone who has the results you want and follow along.
 
If you wanted to lose weight, find someone who successfully lost weight and was able to keep it off and ask them what they did and copy that.
 
Relationship. Find people in successful relationships and ask them how they do it. What keeps them going strong.
 
You get the idea. Take an interest in the results you want and study it to the core.
 
Stop just surviving and getting by. Strive for better than that.
You obviously want more or you would not have read this far.
 
 
Your frustrations will push you to dig enough to find that breakthrough. Get excited about your frustrations and use it to uncover new possibilities.
 
The “Post It” was created out of a failure. They were trying to make an adhesive that would NEVER come apart. They were attempting to make a permanent glue and came out with the complete opposite. Instead of giving up and quiting, they applied step 4 and used that “failure” to creating a billion dollar industry that is pretty much a household item.
 
Success makes you lazy anyway.
 

“People succeed and they party. People fail and they Ponder” –CLICK to Tweet!

 
 
Actions today for your success journal:
 
Think of 2 actions been putting off. 2 things you know you need to do. If you were to do them now they would immediately improve the quality of your life. Decide right now. Start small and build up.
 
Then take action this very second. There is power in momentum. The second you have an idea the power is taking action right then and there. Do it now. Think of 3 small actions you can take right at this very moment and stop and go do it.
 
So I have 4 – because I am an over achiever that way. Set your sights high and if you fall short you are where you would have been anyway.
 
One of my coaching students who runs their own online retail business came to me because she had lost her motivation. She said she was only adding 5 new items to the inventory for sale a week. I asked her what would be a good number to get done? She said in her best days she used to get 10 done in one day.
 
So she said how about we set a new goal to get 5 done tomorrow and see if we can work our way back up to 10 a day.
 
I said NO!
 
Your goal is to get 30 done tomorrow! She was absolutely shocked! After she got done calling me crazy I told her to say it out loud and commit it to paper “I will get 30 items listed tomorrow”
 
So what happened?
 
Well she go 23 done!
 
Now you may look at that as a failure for not reaching 30. But had we set it at 5 she may have only gotten 3 done.
 
I hope you can get the picture.
 
Push yourself beyond your expectations.
 
Give yourself a chance to surprise yourself.
 
So my tasks.
 
1. Change twitter background – It is pretty sad but my twitter background still has the website from over a year ago. Something that has been nagging at me and I keep putting it off because I do not know much about graphics or designing. NO EXCUSES!
 
2.Edit interviews for 30 day comeback – This is a project I have been working on for months that I am very passionate about. I am constantly doing more and more interviews but I have been putting off the editing to make them ready for listening.
 
3. Read Breakthrough Advertising by Eugene Shwartz – I was told by a few of my mentors that this is the single most important book they have ever read in their careers. That it taught them so much more than what the book is about. I have not finished it yet and I really want to.
4. Take my NLP Certification final exam – I am constantly taking courses and more training so that I can further my expertise in order to help more people.  The more I know, the better I can help you.  The class has already been completed but I have not scheduled and taken my final exam.
So how can I break this down into easy quick tasks I can do right now?
 
1. I can go to twitter and change my custom background with the standard one in about 3 clicks
 
2. I can let the interview play while I am eating dinner and by the time I am done I should be complete.
 
3. I can commit to reading one chapter before bed.
4. I can make the appointment to take the test.
So this is the end of Day 1.
 
Are you up for the challenge? Can you commit to 30 days? Are you willing to invest in your own future for just 1 month if it promises to bring everlasting change to your life?
 
Let me know you are with me in the comments and tell me what you put down on your tasks for todays exercise.
 
What have you been putting off?
 
Keep me on track.

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Baby Born Deaf Hears Mothers Voice For The First Time! Shocking Video

This touched me in a way I can hardly explain.  You mother’s out there will be able to see what I see.
Watch this video a see the moment infant baby recognizes his mother’s voice
 

 Deaf Baby Hears For The First Time With Cochlear Implant

 
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The bond between a mother and child happens waaay before “us” on the outside can even imagine to be aware of it!

Week 23 – The bond between mother and her unborn
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 Baby:
Im starting to feel Kason all hours of the day….Some woman complain of the kicking, I guess after going through losses & 2 years of ttc this little one I am happy to say I LOVE EVERY minute of his kicking…It reassures me that everything is okay in there… I can see the outline of his head and butt at times… So amazing, I remember these times with my dd & my ds… Truly a blessing…. Patiently waiting for the day this little boy makes his first appearance. This is the first pregnancy where I am not rushing it to go by, I am enjoying to the fullest bc I feel like this is the only time I will ever have that he is all mine to myself. The bond between a mother and her unborn child is truly a miracle.. I feel blessed more and more everyday!

I have to say I believe that women are the most blessed beings on the planet to be able to have this experience.
We are all envious!
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Couldn’t you tell in the video that even though it was his first time hearing his mommy.. he knew…
He knew immediately who it was.  You could see the recognition in his eyes.
He was not startled.
He was not confused as to this new sound.
It almost looked as if he was hearing and old friend after months of being away.
How powerful is that!
How many of you have a bond like this with your children/mother’s?
Share your stories in the comments below.
 
If this story has touched you in a positive way, please share so someone else can feel what you feel. If it had a negative impact, tell me why in the comments
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Set Boundaries In A Relationship – The Quick and Dirty Way

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Everyone needs to set boundaries in a relationship.

Lately, lets be honest. . .

You have been a little bit more drained than normal.

You haven’t changed your diet.

You are still going through the exact same daily routine.

Everything seems to be in order.

But it’s not.

You feel… Off!

Like you have not been yourself lately.

Like you wouldn’t know how to identify what “being yourself” actually even means.

You are do damn nice!

Maybe you are just a people pleaser.

But there is healthy difference between taking full enjoyment out of enriching the lives of others and pushing all of your own needs aside for fear of disappointing someone else.

You can’t please everyone.

I know that is hard coming from me, since, of course, I am the only one on this planet who does, in fact, please everyone =-)

But unfortunately you are not me. You cannot expect to have the types of results I have with people.

There really is only one super simple step you need to take to place healthy boundaries on your relationships…

Learn to say no

Having firm boundaries is one of the hardest things to have, especially if you’re a born people pleaser and who isn’t, right? But saying no, even if it feels uncomfortable at first, is crucial when you’re serious about honoring yourself. Always saying yes, always being there for others means always putting yourself last. Now, that goes against everything that self-love is about. So, say no to others more often and say yes to yourself.

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23 Pictures That Say – Stop Complaining and Start Creating

funny complaining job imageI know you do it!
Something happens that you don’t like and you just HAVE to tell somebody about it.
Not just somebody…but EVERYBODY!
Anyone who will listen.

  • You tell the clerk while you are at the checkout.
  • You call your best friend and complain to them
  • You most certainly post about it on Facebook so other complainers can tell you how angry they are and how the same thing has happened to them
  • You tell your girlfriend, wife and/or both
  • You want to tell your diary but that can get mad with you…but is just as effective as all the others.

You just want you complaint to be heard!
Why?
Who knows!  Have you ever noticed how you feel after complaining to one of your friends?  You share your terrible story, then they try to top you with and equally terrible story, then you share another….
This goes on and on until you are both whipped up into a frenzy!  But do you actually ever do anything about it???
NO!
It is so much easier to piss and moan than it is to actually get off you ass and change what you are complaining about!
So this is not going to be your typical “Feel-Good” list of motivational quotes.  This is meant to show you who is the only one who can really make a difference in your life
YOU!

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Something I learned from Jon Morrow

“You could either fight for your life, or lay down and wait to die.” – Tweet THIS!

 

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“Spending Today Complaining about yesterday wont make tomorrow any better” – Tweet THIS!

Stop and think: what benefits do you always receive from complaining about something that has already happend?

You get to relive the experience again like it just happened.  You get to feel the pain and emotion each and every time you share the story.  You even get to spread the anger you are feeling to your loved ones you are forcing to listen to you.  I bet you are a blast at the holidays!

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Listening to too much complaining is bad for your brain in multiple ways. . . .

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“The brain works more like a muscle than we thought,” Blake says. “So if you’re pinned in a corner for too long listening to someone being negative, you’re more likely to behave that way as well.”
Even worse, being exposed to too much complaining can actually make you dumb. Research shows that exposure to 30 minutes or more of negativity–including viewing such material on TV–actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus. “That’s the part of your brain you need for problem solving,” he says. “Basically, it turns your brain to mush.”
Read full article at Inc.com
 

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“I enjoy complaining almost as much as not doing anything about my complaints” – Tweet THIS!

Sounds pretty funny when you read it like this doesn’t it?  But remember the last time you complained to someone?  Probably was not that long ago.  Think about it.  Did you actually DO anything about what your were complaining about?

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Complaining is draining!

“Complaining is Draining” – Tweet THIS!

Think about the person who has to sit and listing to you complaining and pretending they care.  You are literally sucking the life out of them!

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This is what you sound like to  the people around you.  If you see them slowly backing out the door and nodding, you may wont to find a brighter topic before they all run screaming in the other direction!

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Stop complaining. Start training.

“Success Trains. Failure Complains” – Tweet THIS!

Simple enough.  You want results?  Do what successful people do.  How many people do you know at the top that spend most of their days complaining?

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As bad as you think your little problem is there is always someone who has to deal with much worse!

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“As you take a breath right now another person takes their last. Stop whining and learn to live your life to the fullest” – Tweet THIS!

You time here is so limited and so valuable.  Spend it doing things that uplift you.  Not speaking about things that bring you and others down!

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change your life quote

“If you do not like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree” – Tweet THIS!

Everything can be changed!  There is ALWAYS something you can do to change your current state.  Look for solutions instead of dwelling on the past.

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WOW!  READ IT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Someone has probably offered you a solution to that thing you are complaining about and yet you refused it!  Are you that person who just wants to complain but doesn’t really want the problem fixed?

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“I have the choice to be angry at God for what I don’t have or be thankful for what I do have” ~ Nick Vuljicic  – Tweet THIS!

Your happiness is a choice!  What you choose to focus on is ALWAYS in your control.

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quotes on bitching

If you spent less time bitching about your life you would probably enjoy it more  – Tweet THIS!

Enough said!!!!

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quote on positive thinking

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything – Tweet THIS!

Want the key to happiness? Love what you have. Give gratitude for everything.  See everything as a gift.

You can’t give gratitude and be in a bad mood at the same time!

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Of course it burns, but complaining won’t make you look good naked – Tweet THIS!

Do you want to be heard and make your point or do you want results?

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Do you think you could have this kind of response to your problems?  You need to!!!

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live life happy quote

Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don’t have. – Tweet THIS!

It can always get worse.  Chances are, if all you are focusing on is the negative… IT WILL!  It has no choice but to get worse!  Change your focus!

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the grass is greener quote

The grass is greener where you water – Tweet THIS!

People that you think have it better than you made a choice to MAKE things better than you.  They did not sit around and complain about how others have more than them.  They went out and got it for themselves.

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Be the change you want to see in your life!
 

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quote on being bitter

 

Let your past make you better, not bitter – Tweet THIS!

Find a way to turn it around.  Instead of asking “why does this always happen to me”, instead say “How can I use this to make myself better”

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You can always find something wrong if that is what you are looking for.  But then you overlook all the sweet goodness that is right there in front of you.

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change your life quote

 Every second is a chance to turn your life around – Tweet THIS!

 
The most valuable thing you have on this earth is your time.  You need to treat it as precious as a mother protecting it’s newborn child.  You feed it.  You nourish it.  You only want the best for it.
And when the time comes you want to look back and say I made the absolute best of it.
How much more time would you waste on complaining.
Protect your time by spending in only the best ways imaginable!

Emotionally Draining Relationships – Why You Should Ditch Soul-Sucking Vampires


Emotionally draining relationships are…. well…. draining!
These vampires are crafty too.  They dress up like concerned mother’s giving “advice” about who you should be dating.
They are co-workers who seem to be waiting for you around every corner with the latest horrible news of the day.
They often even show up as your best friend whom you cannot for the life of you even remember why you are friends in the first place.
But there they are.
You cringe at the very site of them almost emotionally bracing yourself for the blow.
You see the name pop up on your iPhone and you thank the high heavens for caller ID.
By the time your interaction is over you feel completely deflated and would have rather stuck forks in your eyes.
Yet, they are still in your life.

Why do we keep these “friends” in our lives?

Deep down we feel some sort of obligation to spend time with them.
Maybe it’s a family member that will guilt you into oblivion if you miss one of their life-sucking phone calls.
It’s like they have this mythical power over you to wipe out any chance of you having a good day with a simple text message.
But you’re not a jerk….. so you answer the call.

Family or not – THEY MUST GO

You cant just keep hoping they will go away on their own.
I am here to tell you… they wont!
Vampires have to feed.  And your emotions and energy are the main course.
Jen Gresham says….
 

Don’t be afraid to ditch the soul-suckersFinding the good in people, however, doesn’t mean you should provide equal opportunity to everyone who wants a piece of you.  Some people, like my father, have serious problems that I can’t solve.  If you want to take responsibility for someone, start with yourself.  Surround yourself with generous, emotionally healthy individuals and ditch the guilt.

Start Small – Take Your Energy Back

Start today to remove just one emotionally draining relationship from your life.
Right now I am sure you already have one person in mind that you KNOW your life would be better without.
If you do not protect your mental health you will always fall victim to this prey.
Why are they in your life?
I mean… really?
If you do not have a compelling reason that involves them enhancing your everyday experience……….  GIVE THEM THE AX!

11 Simple Ways To Eliminate Stress In Under 7 Minutes

ways to eliminate stress
Stress is all around us.
Lurking in the shadows.
It hangs out at you surprise meeting at work.
It flattens your tire during a rain storm.
It sends you an unexpected bill during your vacation.
It even has the audacity to break your air conditioning unit in the dead of summer.

It’s time to fight back.

If we start to feel defeated and let our emotions get the best of us…. HE WINS!
Not on my watch.

11 Simple Ways To Beat Stress At His Own Game

 

Medicate yourself with laughter. The quickest way to do this is to watch a comedy movie. It’s impossible to stay glum when Dumb & Dumber’s playing in front of you!

This is a tactic my muse (the gorgeous Cece in the picture) and I used when we were pre-comeback a few years ago.  We made it a point to ONLY watch comedy movies or sitcoms for about 3 months straight.
It may seem simple but think about how you actually feel at the end of watching a show filled with blood and murder like a CSI type show.
Do you think it relaxes you or enhances your already stressful day?

Cheat on your diet. Go ahead and have a bowl of chocolate chip cookie dough ice-cream.

In moderation of course.  If you have been good all week and you know without a doubt it will make you feel gooooooood, then go for it.  Just don’t make it a habit.  Then you will have a whole new kind of stress.

Get a Cat Massage

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Chill like the Graceful Otter

 
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Do something you love: knitting, painting, baking.  Research shows that simple, feel-good hobbies envelope you in overall serenity and reduce blood pressure. They can be as relaxing as yoga!

This one is my favorite.  You should be spending some time each and every day doing something you love.  Something for you.  You deserve it.
At the end of the day you need to take care of you.  There is nothing more I can say about that.
If you are not nurturing your innermost desires on a daily basis you just might find you do not have the enthusiasm for life you once had.
Life this life.  It’s the only one you have.